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eroticism is delicious presence,
the quality of silk, of
imagination, curiosity going
and playfulness, mystery, history,
culture, risk-taking novelty

that people bring to
life to go far
beyond your threshold, is it
true, if you do pleasant,
familiar things, cozy things,
it's not erotic... it's not?

well calibrating expectations
diversifying connections, building
stories through life stages
calibrating yes and, well
diversifying stories, differing
novels, musings, taking risks...

play is essential, see
playfulness, yes
that humor in your eyes

excerpt from an interview with Esther Perel